You’ll Never Achieve Your Goals If You Don’t Have This One Thing

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Hey there! First of all, my apologies for the click-baity title, but I really really need you to hear this! You will never ever reach your goals if you don’t have this one thing:


I’ve vlogged about this before. Fear of failure is the number one thing (imo) that stops us from pursuing our dreams, and it comes from a lack of faith. No matter how many times you fail, if you have faith you won’t let a small stumble halt your journey.

How I Wiggled Out Of My Comfort Zone to Reach a Major Goal

One of my goals is to make a full time living off of Adorned By Chi, and that means I have to get creative with marketing. Before this year I would have NEVER EVER thought of throwing an event, let alone two, and especially not a tea party, but I knew events needed to be part of my marketing plan since I sell pieces that would be great for weddings, parties, etc. Now, when I tell you I was shaking in my boots at the thought of hosting a party I mean it. My fear of event planning stems from being a naturally shy person, but also from a major failure.

When I was a sophomore in college I started a club for underserved children. We raised money and planned our first event for the kids- a handmade carnival. And just to shake things up, here’s a blurry pic of some of us shopping for the carnival. Yeah that’s me in the red *sigh*. The glo up was too real.


Everyone truly put their heart and soul into this, and I was so stoked to see it all come together! I couldn’t wait to see the smiles on their faces when they saw everything we had done to make their day a bit brighter. But 30 minutes later? No kids. I thought, ok they’re running late…no biggie! But an hour later? Still no kids. Now my ears were hot and I felt like all eyes were on me. I sent an email to the director of the program and he replied back a few minutes later letting me know there was a mix up, and that the kids had been taken to the movies. I slunk away in shame as everyone took down all the handmade games and packed up all the toys. I shut off my phone, went to the bathroom and cried. I think about that day more often than I’d like to admit. I felt like a failure, like I wasn’t fit to lead, and I never tried planning anything like that again.

So when I got the idea to throw a tea party, you can guess which memory decided to wedge itself in the forefront of my mind. Yep, you guessed it. My failed carnival. I thought, ‘I like tea parties because I’m weird. What if no one comes?’ and even worse, ‘What if they do come and don’t have any fun?’. But something kept tugging at me, telling me to throw the party. Plus, I was super inspired by Jennifer‘s Finesse Your Life event (which I was able to help with a bit). So I made a flier, sent out emails, and….the event was amazing!!!



Once I got the ball rolling I was still nervous but my faith superseded my fear and the result was a great event, great partnerships, and a boost of confidence in my event throwing skills. And guess what? I’m hosting another one, which I’ll post about later. 🙂

But that failed event wasn’t all bad. It definitely taught me a lesson in not putting all your eggs in one basket, and to always follow up with people..always! Had I not had a disastrous experience before, I would have never learned these important lessons. To me, failure is life’s greatest teacher and FAITH is life’s greatest motivator.

What do you think? Is there a time you side-stepped fear to make things happen? Let me know below!

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  • Great post, Jacque! My problem is I never seem to be ready to take action, which might stem from a lack of faith in my abilities. Working on this now and I hope to embark on some amazing ventures in 2016. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    Ade || She Be Knowin

  • For myself I think for the longest it was me not talking about my dreams in fear that if I shared them then it wouldn’t come true. But honestly if yours no one can take it away. And having faith that God is on my side and working with me has helped me be more vocal about my dreams. In return I have met some awesome people with similar goals and my family and friends are always supporting me in whatever I may need 🙂

    • I used to be just like that! But you’re right…discussing your goals and dreams with the right people can open up way more opportunities than keeping quiet can. And yup, what God has deemed yours can’t be taken from you.. You just have to keep the faith ^_^

  • Love this post! I’m battling my own fears right now to steer my business in a completely new direction. Fear of making the wrong decision keeps me up at night eeek. But, unless I go for things I’ll never know the outcome.

  • You are so inspiring! I love your blog and how you’ve built a business and brand out of it. I recently launched a blog, so this was great encouragement for me to keep at it. You got a new follower! 🙂