Day in and day out we’re bombarded with other people’s good news (We’re also bombarded by bad news, but that’s a whole different beast). Anyway, when you see everyone else getting new jobs, new cars, having new babies, starting new businesses and overall being #blessed, it’s easy to look at your life and think ‘what about me?’.
Jealousy definitely isn’t a great feeling, and it’s something that most people won’t admit they feel. Why? Probably because coveting what someone else has means you’ve put them on a pedestal and you’re admitting that they have something that you don’t. So what do we do? We usually wind up minimizing their accomplishments with thoughts like “oh she’s probably fronting for the ‘gram” or “remember how annoying she was?”, or the worst most childish thing you could ever ever say, “she’s ugly anyway…”.
So how can you possibly make such a terrible feeling like envy work for you? I have a few tips!
Come to terms with your jealousy
Green with envy? Accept it! Denying the fact that you’re jealous only leads to playing mental gymnastics with yourself. Instead of trying to rationalize your feelings of mediocrity by throwing stones at the object of your jealousy, just own the fact that you’re feeling envious.
Why are you jealous? Do you want something they have? Or is your jealousy more personal? If you only seem to feel envious of a certain person, no matter what news they have to share, you might just be a hater…sorry! But if you find yourself jealous of everyone who’s starting a new business venture, that’s probably a sign that you really want to be an entrepreneur.
Turn jealousy into admiration
As I’ve stated before, admitting that you’re feeling jealous is like admitting that someone is ahead of or above you. So rather than envy that person, why not flip the script and admire them instead? With admiration you can covet what they have, but instead of seething every time you see a status update, you’ll feel a sense of pride. Kind of like the Beyhive!
Use your jealousy as motivation
Whenever I find myself feeling jealous, I use it as motivation to work harder so I can also be where that person is. There’s enough room at the top for all of us!
Are you jealous of something that you’re just not good at and never will be? Yes? Then stop being jealous, silly! That’s how I felt about Periscope. I was a bit jealous of how other bloggers seemed to be soaring on the social network but I realized I’m just not good at it. And once I recognized that, what is there to envy? Now I’m just proud of my fellow bloggers making it rain on the ‘scope!
What about you? Have you come to terms with feeling jealous?